Mar 12, 2019
Ever offended someone by giving unsolicited advice? No matter how noble your intentions are, giving advice when it’s not asked for can backfire on you. Here’s Phil Cooke’s advice – on not giving advice!
I’m embarrassed to say that it’s taken me most of my life to understand this, but it’s true. Except in very rare situations, giving people advice who haven’t asked for it just doesn’t work – no matter how noble your intentions. In fact, they will often be offended and your very relationship can be damaged.
When my daughters were growing up I would see them making a mistake and offer my advice. Did they take it? Rarely. More often than not, they were offended. My wife Kathleen was the same way. Unsolicited advice almost always seems judgmental and is therefore unappreciated.
After a lot of fiery darts being flung my way, here are a few things I’ve learned:
The impact of your advice isn’t just based on the insight, it’s also based on the timing. Bottom line? Don’t give advice, unless they ask.
Anyone else found that to be true? – Phil Cooke
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